Young love is a flame; very pretty, often very hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. The love of the older and disciplined heart is as coals, deep-burning, unquenchable. – Henry Ward Beecher We scientists can be a bunch of wet-blankets when it comes to the idea of romance. Many people believe … Read more Can Romantic Love Stand the Test of Time?
“Where there is love there is pain” –Spanish Proverb I’ve known and lived with many amazing dogs and cats in my life. Each animal I’ve known has been special and wonderful in their own way. But then there is Dalai. She is my lifetime dog. When we adopted that scared little dog all those years … Read more Pain and values: two sides of the same coin
In late February the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA), a government agency dedicated to studying addiction, published a free resource on what to ask when looking into addiction treatment programs. This short booklet, which can be viewed online or downloaded for free, lists 5 questions to ask any addiction treatment provider you are considering … Read more What Questions to Ask When Looking into Addiction Treatment
“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. “– Helen Keller Something many of us yearn for in our relationships is … Read more The myth of security– Embracing vulnerability, uncertainty, and ambiguity in our relationships and in our world
Recently a colleague alerted me to an article in the Chicago Tribune about CRAFT (Community Reinforcement and Family Training). A few months back I wrote a blog post about CRAFT that described the research support and basic ideas of the treatment. Briefly, CRAFT teaches family members with loved ones with addictions how to non-confrontationally change … Read more Help! How Do I find Resources for My Loved One with an Addiction?