BOOKS
Books about relationships and intimacy
- The Mindful Couple: How acceptance and mindfulness can lead you to the love you want by Robyn Walser, Ph.D. and Darrah Westrup, Ph.D.—based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
- ACT With Love: Stop Struggling, Reconcile Differences, and Strengthen Your Relationship with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Russ Harris, M.D. – another great relationship book based on ACT
- Reconcilable Differences by Andrew Christensen Ph.D. and Neil Jacobson Ph.D.—based on Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy
- The Relationship Cure by John Gottman, Ph.D. – a master in the field
Books about sex
- Come As You Are and the Come As You Are Workbook by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.
- She Comes First and He Comes Next by Ian Kerner, Ph.D.
- Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch, Ph.D.
- Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston
- The Whole Lesbian Sex Book by Felice Newman
- The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy and Dossie
- Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
RESOURCES
Gender, sexuality and sexual health resources
- The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction
- The Center for Research and Education on Gender and Sexuality (CREGS)
- Planned Parenthood, (800) 230-PLAN
- Our Bodies, Our Selves, provides good, general information about women’s health and sexuality
- National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, advocacy and educational group for adults who engage in “alternative” sexual and relationship expression
LGBTQ resources
National LGBTQ organizations
- Human Rights Campaign
- Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays (PFLAG)
- Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation
- The Pride Foundation
- AFFIRM- Psychologists affirming their LGBT family
- Gay, Lesbian, and Straight education network
Local LGBTQ organizations
- Q Center: Portland’s LGBTQ community center
- SMYRC: Sexual and Gender Minority Youth Resource Center
- TransActive Gender Project
Abusive relationships and domestic violence resources
National domestic violence resources
- National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
- National Center on Domestic Violence
- National Online Resource Center on Violence Against Women
- Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women, 1-888-7HELPLINE (1-888-743-5754), national organization focused on helping both male and female victims of intimate partner abuse whether they are in same-sex or opposite-sex relationships
Local domestic violence resources
- Gateway Center for Domestic Violence Services, 503-988-6400
- Call to Safety, 503-235-5333, 1-888-235-5333
- Vancouver Women’s Crisis Line 360-696-0167
- La Linea de Ayuda para la Mujer (Spanish-speaking Women’s Crisis Line), 503-232-4448
- SAWERA: South Asian Women’s Empowerment and Resource Alliance, 503-778-7386
- Multnomah County Human Services, (503) 988-3646– has a specific department for LGBT domestic violence victims and for children who have witnessed domestic violence.
- Multnomah County DVert (Domestic Violence Enhanced Response Team), 503-988-6440
- Allies in Change, offers male and female specific abuse intervention and abuse recovery groups.
Local legal assistance (for domestic violence)
- Restraining Orders (Multnomah County): 503-248-3943
- Multnomah County Department of Community Justice Domestic Violence Unit: 503-988-5056
- Multnomah County District Attorney Domestic Violence Unit: 503- 988-3873, Has a an extensive online domestic violence resource manual
- Family Law Hotline for Domestic Violence Victims: 503-299-6101
- Address Confidentiality Program: Provides a substitute address to use in place of your actual address for mail delivery
- Victim’s Assistance Program: May provide crime-related medical and mental health benefits
Local temporary housing (for domestic violence)
- Bradley-Angle House, 503-281-2442, Runs the Bonnie Tinker House, an emergency shelter
- Raphael House, 503-222-6222
- Domestic Violence Resource Center: 503-469-8620, Runs the Monika’s House Shelter
- Yolanda House of YWCA: 503-977-7930 or 503-535-3266
- Clackamas Women’s Services Shelter, 503-654-2288
- SafeChoice/Vancouver YWCA: 360-695-0501
- Salvation Army West Women and Children’s Shelter: 503-224-7718
- Oregon Humane Society, 503-285-7722 – Has a program to provide temporary housing for companion animals of women and men who are leaving domestic violence situations.
- Directory of Safe Havens for Animals Program: National directory of animal shelters for those who are fleeing domestic violence situations
Exercises, questionnaires, and audio recordings
- Identifying your relationship values worksheet. Help identify what are your values in your intimate relationship based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy principles
- Relationship conflict worksheet. Useful worksheet from UK-based therapist Carol Vivyan