Relationships, Intimacy, and Sexuality Resources
- Books about relationships and intimacy
The Mindful Couple: How acceptance and mindfulness can lead you to the love you want
by Robyn Walser, Ph.D. and Darrah Westrup, Ph.D.—based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
ACT With Love: Stop Struggling, Reconcile Differences, and Strengthen Your Relationship with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
by Russ Harris, M.D. – another great relationship book based on ACT
Reconcilable Differences
by Andrew Christensen Ph.D. and Neil Jacobson Ph.D.—based on Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy
The Relationship Cure
by John Gottman, Ph.D. – a master in the field
- Books about sex
Come As You Are
by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.
Come As You Are Workbook
by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.
She Comes First
by Ian Kerner, Ph.D.
He Comes Next
by Ian Kerner, Ph.D.
Passionate Marriage
by David Schnarch, Ph.D.
Women’s Anatomy of Arousal
by Sheri Winston
The Whole Lesbian Sex Book
by Felice Newman
The Ethical Slut
by Janet Hardy and Dossie
Mating in Captivity
by Esther Perel
Planned Parenthood
(800) 230-PLAN
Our Bodies, Our Selves
Provides good, general information about women’s health and sexuality
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
Advocacy and educational group for adults who engage in “alternative” sexual and relationship expression
- LGBTQ+ Resources
Human Rights Campaign
National organization
Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays (PFLAG)
National organization
Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation
National organization
The Pride Foundation
National organization
Gay, Lesbian, and Straight education network
National organization
Q Center: Portland’s LGBTQ community center
Local organization
SMYRC: Sexual and Gender Minority Youth Resource Center
Local organization
TransActive Gender Project
Local organization
- Abusive relationships and domestic violence resources
National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
National resource
National Online Resource Center on Violence Against Women
National resource
Gateway Center for Domestic Violence Services, 503-988-6400
Local resource
Call to Safety, 503-235-5333, 1-888-235-5333
Local resource
Vancouver Women’s Crisis Line 360-696-0167
Local resource
Multnomah County Human Services, (503) 988-3646–
Local resource | Has a specific department for LGBT domestic violence victims and for children who have witnessed domestic violence.
Allies in Change
Local resource | Offers male and female specific abuse intervention and abuse recovery groups.
Restraining Orders (Multnomah County): 503-248-3943
Local legal assistance
Multnomah County Department of Community Justice Domestic Violence Unit: 503-988-5056
Local legal assistance
Multnomah County District Attorney Domestic Violence Unit: 503- 988-3873
Local legal assistance | Has a an extensive online domestic violence resource manual
Family Law Hotline for Domestic Violence Victims: 503-299-6101
Local legal assistance
Address Confidentiality Program
National legal assistance | Provides a substitute address to use in place of your actual address for mail delivery
Victim’s Assistance Program
National legal assistance | May provide crime-related medical and mental health benefits
Bradley-Angle House, 503-281-2442
Local temporary housing | Runs the Bonnie Tinker House, an emergency shelter
Raphael House, 503-222-6222
Local temporary housing
Monika's House, 503-469-8620
Local temporary housing | Run by Domestic Violence Resource Center
Clackamas Women’s Services Shelter, 503-654-2288
Local temporary housing
SafeChoice/Vancouver YWCA: 360-695-0501
Local temporary housing
Salvation Army West Women and Children’s Shelter, 503-224-7718
Local temporary housing
Oregon Humane Society, 503-285-7722
Has a program to provide temporary housing for companion animals of women and men who are leaving domestic violence situations.
Directory of Safe Havens for Animals Program
National directory of animal shelters for those who are fleeing domestic violence situations
Identifying your relationship values worksheet
Help identify what are your values in your intimate relationship based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy principles
Relationship conflict worksheet
Useful worksheet from UK-based therapist Carol Vivyan